Beach Walk 687 – Looks Terrible But…

We saw my friend Paul on the beach today – he was smartly walking instead of swimming due to the bloom of Portuguese Man-o-war (tiny jellyfish) in the bay (there’s a picture of one inside this episode). Me? I swim regardless, and curiously enough was planning to talk about how “bad” my arm looks from a sting a few days before. I wanted to show it to you so you could employ mind over matter to unplug the automatic responses we have to wounds and ugliness. Talking about change is one thing, but actually having opportunities to make change in our neurons is another. Not to worry; it will be all gone in a few days. Let that weigh in as you look at my spotted arm.

Hawaiian Word:
ʻōiwi: appearance, physique

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Beach Walk 686 – Does Experience Matter?

One of the big myths floating around is that a person’s position or title is comparable to their competence. Not always true! Like me, I am sure you can think of examples. Many choices in life really do boil down to personal preferences. “Who you know” really does matter, and that is not always a bad thing. This turned out to be relevant in a discussion I was having with several other women speakers. We are all going to be presenting at BlogWorldExpo next week, where there keynote speakers are all white male. It’s an old issue, but one that is not all that easy to address. It is a combination of micro and macro energies in play. We have ideals we want to play out in the macro yet change happens in the micro of person to person relationships.

The majority of the time decision-makers go with the known quantity. This is seen by some as pandering by others as smart business to fill seats. Attendees too say they want something new, but are attracted to the known and familiar too. BlogHer is a women’s blogging conference, and founder Elisa Camahort prides herself in pro-attractively seeking out new voices for each event. And BlogHer is growing and growing – proving that this too is a viable business model.

Are you more attracted to familiar big names or the chance to help discover new talent?

Hawaiian Word:
ʻike: experience, to see, know, feel

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Beach Walk 685 – In Support of Changemakers

One of the profound yet not often acknowledged (by me) benefits of living in community with other people is that some choose to be the ones who go forward into the unknown, and those adventures ultimately inform and inspire the rest of us. I often think of myself as one of those explorers. Sometimes though, I feel pressure to have to always be on the front line. Today’s episode honors those others who have shown me the way, especially my parents, Blanche and Bill.

Hawaiian Word:
Loli: change, transformation

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Beach Walk 684 – Sorting Out Travel Energy

Seems the more I travel the easier it is for me to get cranky. Today, a RT fare from HNL to DTW to HNL cost $700 but a one-way fare cost $1100! That is not about fuel prices…

Anyway, I am learning to just pull my aura in and focus on myself, in the midst of the madding crowds (and unruly dogs!) And curiously, after an hour or so, people are not bothering me. It’s this concept of “hui hui” or blending together without actually having to interact. We get trapped into thinking other people have to change for us to be happy or content, but really, sometimes all that’s necessary is to just let it be and focus inward. Have you found this works for you?

Hawaiian Word:
Hui hui: blending, coming together

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Beach Walk 682 – Go With The Flow

As you know I have these dialogs in my head. Sometimes when I am stressed a voice says “just go with the flow.” But another voice says, “No! That is too passive!” Today I actually figured out the confusion in this and am happy to share it with you, in case it helps.

Hawaiian Word:
Holo: to flow, as in water
Hoʻokele: navigate

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