Beach Walk 601R – Making Up Stories

March 5, 2008 | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

Amanda Congdon and Andrew Baron are experiencing some public disagreements regarding their video blog, Rocketboom.

Gut feelings and instinct are great tools…except when they turn out to be wrong! And especially after engaging in a course of (mis)guided action. (It can sometimes be the sneaky work of the #2 personality – see show #102 for an explanation). So here’s a catchy little concept I learned to help me step back from the brink of getting emotionally invested in situations before I know the facts:
# Making up stories
# Pretending they’re true
# Having feelings about them
# Acting on those feelings

It’s human nature to want to speculate and to have opinions. But consciousness is the opportunity to stop there, claim one’s feelings as personal and subjective, and sit with all the discomfort that accompanies them without having to pretend that the hunches and feelings are facts. You can watch a wrenching example in The End of the Affair with Ralph Fiennes and Julianne Moore, where he made up stories, pretended they were true, and the ending is tragic.

Spread da aloha.

P.S. Shane and Rox are traveling this week so please enjoy some of our Beach Walks Classic Episodes! This was originally aired as Episode #134 and there are some good comments on that page.

Hawaiian word:
Hoʻomeamea: pretend

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Beach Walk 4 – Beauty and Rain

February 24, 2006 | Tags: , , , , , , , , , |


E komo mai and welcome to show number 4 of Beach Walks with Rox. We caught a break between showers. It was one of those days when the islands of Maui and Molokai were visible 40 miles in the distance. I don’t understand what makes that so breath-taking, the visage of another island. I guess it is partly the deep connection I feel with the rest of humanity. Including you.

About Today’s Show:

I talked about beauty today. The beauty of fellow women video podcasters Amanda of Rocketboom and Cali of GeekBrief.tv. As compared to my own unprepped and pre-showered morning self. I find it quite liberating and something I am not sure I could have comfortably done before living in Hawaii.

I also noticed the coincidence of starting our first week of videos, with rain and dark clouds every day! Not the usual “beauty” one thinks of for Hawaii. Yet it has been a beautiful week for me and I hope for you too. In writing up this post, I looked to see what the dictionary had to say for beauty, and it included this lovely synchronicity to my comments in the show: In poetry, beauty is shown by references to nature, especially to the sea and rain. The discussion on rain is also quite beautiful! I had forgotten there are so many ways to know rain in Hawaiian.

We all become more beautiful when we are loved, and if you have self-love, then you are always beautiful. –Alice Walker, The Color Purple

Hawaiian words
nani: beauty
ua: rain

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