Beach Walk 453 – Summer of One to One

It’s summer and I’m asking you to reconsider one of the pat phrases we use.

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  1. Greetings! Tivo currently provides for the download of RocketBoom. It would be nice to get “Beachwalks” there as well. –Dave Rae, Charlottesville, Va

  2. One on One to me just means 2 people accomplishing a task together. It does not have the connotation that one is superior to the other. Thats just my take on it. Have a great weekend. 🙂

  3. Hola Friday from Santa Fe!

    I think it’s really difficult for us all to take a step back from the language we’ve grown up with and use every day and really think about what it actually means and how it subtlety affects our interactions with others.

    I’ve been quite surprised several times when I used a word and was challenged on it’s meaning. A quick trip to the dictionary revealed very surprising results.

    It’s easy to talk about but very difficult to actually change these ingrained patterns.

    Beautiful day there, btw. Loved all the “One to One” inserts of people enjoying the beach.

  4. …I always think of the phrase One on One as a competitive term used in a sports scenario.

    It’s also one of those phrases that is hugely subjective in interpretation (purposely or by ignorance).

    The words ‘on’ versus ‘to’ in the phrase One-on-One does suggest who is dominant based on who initiates the phrase between two people.

    So (I think) it can be one of those phrases used to manipulate a situation too.

    Love the self-esteem topic and discussion – mahalo nui (as always)…

  5. I never realized how one on one is actually much different than one to one.

    One to one is much better in most cases.

  6. I wish I was as carefree as Lexi!

    When I heard you saying “we’re going to do this one on one”, I could feel my gut tightening, before you even explained where you were going. A real visceral reaction to it. For me, “one on one” can mean you’re in trouble, getting called on the carpet, in the office with the door closed – “one on one”. I think it means “more supervision” and can imply someone is not doing something right.

    If “one on one” didn’t have a special meaning to it, why wouldn’t we just use the single word, “together”?

    Even the sports connotation means that the two people are competing, trying to best each other and win. That might be desirable in certain situations, and undesirable in others (like our personal relationships).

    Thanks for the topic. And thanks for the bikini culture images, workout motivation!

  7. @ David Rae – mahalo for the recommendation; we contacted them about a year ago and didn’t get a response. Do you have a contact or would you be willing to email them and recommend us? We would love that, and I’ve added them back to my list of leads.

  8. I always heard it in relation to basketball. One-on-one is a game or a drill in which each “team” consists of only one player. You can also play two-on-two or three-on-three, etc.

    So yes, the phrase is inherently competitive, which is probably what loads it with tension for some people. I don’t think of it as a dominance thing, however. Both players are equal, although at any one moment, one is on offense and one on defense.

    A lot has been written about how men use sports analogies and terminology in business and how off-putting women find this at times. Is this a good example?

  9. FWIW, in the subject of Mathematics, two of the most basic types of relationships are termed as being “one-to-one” (each item in the co-domain relates with exactly one item in the domain) and “onto” (each item in the co-domain relates with something in the domain). They have distinct meanings and we are careful in their use.

    A bit geeky, I admit. But as you suggest, the same consideration applies in using terms to describe how we relate to each other.

  10. Just wanted to say I enjoyed watching Beach Walk. I have heard Clintus talk about it quite a bit and thought I should stop by. It really does give such a calming feeling when watching it and I really enjoy the profound thoughts and ideas you have. As far as one on one/one to one, I’ll have to admit I never gave it much thought as far as it presenting some dominating attribute but after hearing your take on it I can see how it can come across that way. I hear the phrases man to man or woman to woman more often but say one to one actually sounds more professional. I’ll give it a try and see if it catches on. Great show.

  11. One on one to me means an opportunity to relate to someone or hang out with someone one on one. When your with 2,3,4 or more people, it can be hard to express yourself. Sometimes people act differently in a crowd of people, than they do one on one.
    When your with someone one on one, you can open up more freely and just be you.
    I have two daughters and like being with both of them, but I find when we are one on one, we have a deeper connection. I so enjoy one on one or one with one, or say individual encounters with people. Its more personal. Amazing how we can get hung up on words…but I like your idea of being able to perhaps change attitudes a little by the changing of one word. I keep looking for a one-liner that can wake people up to our human potential of compassion for all life. Hmmmmm
    Thank you for sharing…..